As a parent, understanding the way your teenage child behave can be one of the most wonderful thing to observe. On the other hand, watching your teens grow can also be the most stressing.
You can blame it on hormonal changes but as years go by, you may find your teen stressed about something. Signs are enough to show it they can’t sleep at night, they changed the way they ate their food, they don’t talk that much anymore and it’s either they became restless or usually out of your home.
Not to be ignored, these signs can be easily taken with your teens under stress or pressure. But don’t worry; you can easily beat if off them if you know what to do and how to keep their stress at bay.
1. Your teen can be the most sensitive person in the world.
Remember and always remember, among all the people in the world, your teen can be the most sensitive. The slightest joke, the littlest remark or the most innocent-looking smile can be a hint of something far deeper. Make sure that you make careful choices when you decide about your teen.
Keep your choice of words wise. Most teens are particular to being hurt physically than be embarrassed with words. Remember how a touch-me-not tends to close its leaves at the slightest touch? So it’s the same with your teen. You may treat them as you would like but remember that they retain information more than you do and being sensitive about how they feel can be the first step for you to help them.
2. Help your teen beat the stress in school or with his circle of friends.
Admit it or not, knowing your teen’s circle of friends in and out of school might pay more than what you can think of. Teen bullying is not an impossible scenario and there are always chances that the reason why he averts from school is because he’s being bullied.
Instead of reprimanding them, ask them to bring their friends sometimes to watch a movie or do some projects. This way, you get to know what kind of peers your teen has and consider whether they’re a good company for him.
3. Identify with your teen.
For once in your life you’ve experienced to be in the teenage years as much as your teen is experiencing right now. Surely you’ll know if something’s wrong, right? The past experiences you had before as a teenager yourself can be one of the best avenues for you to help your teen.
Why, you can identify exactly what may have happened even without talking to them. And as a parent, it would be the best time for you to act on what you know and what you should do to avoid burning them out, affecting their performance and overall health in the process.
4. Make time to talk and to listen to them.
Instead of waiting for them to talk to you, make the time to talk to your teen. Be the one to start the conversation. The simple act of asking him about school would be the first step. Make him talk about his friends, his teachers, his classmates, his assignments and his achievements.
Making him talk simply would help you determine your teen’s feelings at the moment. Besides, sharing laughter together with your teen would help you establish trust and confidence with them. Make them feel that you are always around to listen and always make yourself prepared to offer choice words of wisdom when they need words to encourage them.
5. Lead them on the right path and be the right leader to guide them.
As parents, you have to take on many coats and forms. You have to be a teacher, an administrator, a manager, a scheduler, an-all-around nanny if needed and you have to be the leader. Your child would look to none other but you for a role model. Teens under a lot of pressure and stress often turn to drugs, alcohol abuse or engage themselves with pre-marital sex. You can avoid all these by doing the first four steps above.
However, what you need to do is guide them through the ups and downs of life’s reality. Let them look at the bright side of things always. Help them stand to their feet and never forget that a kind word is more than enough to calm them, make them feel appreciated and loved.
So after reading these five easy things to understand teenage stress better, I think you’re ready to embark on a new journey of patching things up with your teens. Don’t worry if it’s your first time to do it. You know the popular saying “there’s always a first for everything”.